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Giving great head involves more than just staying power, good rhythm and an infallible gag reflex. Knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference.

Here are a few ins and outs of oral sex for him – otherwise known as felatio, that are sure to enhance his pleasure, and yours:

If you’re new to giving head, or are blessed with a male partner that has the uncanny ability to be able to last and last and last, be sure to get in a comfortable position.  One of the most comfortable positions for giving head is to have him sit on a chair, couch or other piece of furniture at similar height while you kneel on a pillow in front of him.  This gives you the advantage of having full control.  You can easily manoeuvre, change pace, and most importantly, look up at him with lustful eyes while he succumbs to the pleasure you are giving him.  This position will also allow you to be most comfortable so that you can really enjoy pleasuring your partner.  If you’re more comfortable, he’ll be sure to notice your new found longevity, and all the benefits of you being in control.

There are actually four key pleasure points that you can focus on that will blow his mind while giving your partner a blow job – the head (also known as the crown), the shaft, the scrotum (balls), and the often forgotten anus.  For most men, the greatest amount of pleasure is felt in the head of the penis, not the shaft.  This is why many men enjoy the sensation of deep throating…it’s because the head of the penis is hitting the back of your throat.  Be sure to use your hands, lips and most importantly your tongue to lavish him.  Use your hands to stroke the shaft while you use your tongue to massage the head.  Trace your tongue in a circular motion around his head, now, change it up by making figure eights and finally, blow his mind by deep throating and allowing the head of his penis to touch the back of your throat.  If you’re not comfortable with deep throating, you can achieve a similar effect by thrusting the head into the side wall of your mouth/cheek.  They often can’t tell the difference in the heat of the moment.

Giving good head doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to swallow.  If you are adverse to swallowing, here are a few techniques that you can use to let him enjoy his grand finale.

1.  Let him cum on your body.  Most men only produce about one teaspoon of ejaculate so you don’t have to worry too much about the mess.  Try letting him cum on your breasts, navel area, back, buttocks, or any other sexy and creative place you can think of.  It’s alot sexier than having him cum in a towel.  But, if you’re going to let him cum on your face, keep your eyes closed.  Ejaculate can sting.

2. Plan ahead with good eating habits.  The old saying of “garbage in, garbage out” rings true when giving good head.  If you can sneak a little bit of pineapple or citrus fruit into his diet, it can often make all the difference in the taste of the ejaculate.  If possible, have him reduce his intake of foods like asparagus, caffeine and red meat a few hours before.

3. Get past the taste buds.   If you want to swallow, but really don’t like the taste, the trick is to simply get him to ejaculate past the taste buds.  The taste buds end at about the half way point on your tongue so if he ejaculates when he’s deeper in your mouth, you shouldn’t even taste it.

The secret to deep throating is being relaxed.  The more relaxed you are, the wider you will be able to open up the throat and avoid the gag reflex.  If you’re new to deep throating, you’re probably going to gag the first few times.  But don’t give up.  This is perfectly normal.  Learning to deep throat is just like working out a new muscle.  It takes practice over time to get it into shape.  Start off by having your partner give you a soothing massage to get you in the mood.  Then, when you’re ready, have him sit on a chair while you kneel on a pillow in front of him.  This gives you the complete control and flexibility to take your time and experiment at the pace that’s most comfortable for you.  Try a few play sessions like this and eventually, you should be able to extend the amount of time that you are able to deep throat.  At first, you may only be able to do it for a few seconds, then, maybe a minute, but with practice, you can become seasoned at deep throating and will blow his mind.

Anytime you are learning a new sex technique, honest, open communication in a positive manner is critical.  Keep in mind that the sex techniques provided here are simply guidelines to get you started.  But to really take your sexy adventures to the next level, you need to talk to each other.  Everybody is different and sometimes, what works for one person, may not work for another.  Ask your partner what they enjoy.  And, while you’re in the heat of the moment, get them to give you sexy signals and sounds that let you know you’re doing something they really love.   And remember, we’re not born sex experts, but communication, exploration and having an open mind will go a long way to getting you there in your own relationship.